People have definitely warmed up to the idea of living an online life; where every detail of their mundane lives are posted on the web. It is certainly an exciting new world that we are living in these days but some couples are starting to find out that what happens between them doesn’t always stay that way. Across the generational lines people in their 20’s, 30’s and 40’s and over are trying to deal with these issues in their own way but they can mostly agree about some certain “No, No’s” that are deal breakers for anyone in a relationship in the Social media age.
Dating a monitor
If you happen to be spending more time on the screen than vis-a-vis then you surely need to reconsider your relationship. Not only would that mean that you will have a tough time in real life, but since you are not exactly accessible in real life either, then you will risk being told off in front of the entire world on your Facebook, just ask John Mayer.
Having a Profile Dedicated to Opposite Sex Friends Only
There are various types of jealousy in the world, someone might be jealous when their partner looks a hottie on the streets and others won’t blink an eye if their partner flirts with their best friend. Whatever your definition of jealousy might be, in my humble opinion, everyone can agree that having a Facebook profile dedicated to flirting with people of the opposite sex is just plain sleazy.
Re-kindling an Old Flame
If you partner notices a that you have added your ex and started spending more time on the net, and then by a strange stroke of luck you have a business conference in the same city which that old love has listed on their Facebook profile, then you can’t blame them for being pissed off. Be honest to your current partner about your relationship with your ex’s. While the nostalgia of chasing after an old love might sound good to you given the circumstances, it is always as smart as being parched in a desert chasing a mirage of an oasis when you are holding a bottle of water.
Your friends don’t need to know “How good it was last night!” or “how you cannot stand his obsession with pedicures ?!”, and neither does you partner need the infamy of being labeled and viewed as a snoring pedicure loving sex machine. In general, talking about your partner online is a only a good idea after consulting them and asking them about it and where they would draw the line… or you can just be British and make money off of it.
Passive-Aggressive Social Media Behavior
You know who you are! You are the ones who think they are smart and subtle. You don’t want say something to your partner’s face and rather send hints and suggestions that you feel something is off, and you use social media to do it. You are the ones that have a bipolar take on “Relationship status” changing it from “It’s complicated” to “Single” in a bat while you are still partnered. You are also the ones joining groups like “I want a Good Relationship in 2010” or the “Magical Relationship crusaders“. If that is your definition of subtle then I suggest you try wearing a cowbell to your next cocktail party, it’s a subtle accessory! If you have something to tell your partner, say it to their face directly without letting them, or the entire world, get the wrong impression of how you feel.
After hearing (actually reading) my opinion about this topic I would like you to share with me your own: Do you feel social media could negatively effect relationships and result in breakups?