Divorce: What’s Facebook Got to Do with It?

Example of Facebook relationship status

Social media opens the door to many topics, issues and problems which many of us are unaware of. Recently, while checking out my Facebook account, something triggered my trail of thoughts and I started wondering: How does Facebook affect the decision to get a divorce? What implications does divorce have on a Facebook user thinking of getting a divorce after adding wedding pictures and changing the relationship status to “married”?

These questions and many more got me very interested in researching more about the topic. To my surprise, I was also made aware that there are other investigated issues pertaining to divorce and Facebook. For example, divorce lawyers thrive on cases where Facebook plays an important role in building the divorce case: “Forgot to de-friend your wife on Facebook while posting vacation shots of your mistress? Her divorce lawyer will be thrilled“. One law firm, which specializes in divorce, claimed almost one in five petitions they processed cited Facebook.

Even suspicious spouses seem to have resorted to Facebook for finding evidence of flirting and even affairs which have led to divorce!

A Different Perspective:

Putting aside how Facebook could be used to build a divorce case or even discover evidence of affairs, I think Facebook also plays a hidden role in people’s decision to get a divorce, especially in the case of women. It seems to me that once your status update changes from single to married, it is never the same to go back!

This poses a problem. A very big problem if I may add. Since it seems to be more of a scandal to get a divorce these days, I think many people might actually be married and miserable or might even resort to having affairs just so they won’t face the world (on their Facebook) with the decision of divorce! Scary thought!

The New Meaning of Divorce:

Sadly, a new meaning of divorce seems to have emerged due to social media in general and Facebook in particular. This meaning can be put in a few explanatory points:

  • Divorce stopped being an individual decision; not only is your family involved, your friends and their friends too have an indirect say in it!
  • Divorce became a scandal; everyone on your Facebook friend’s list will know about it and some might demand an explanation.
  • Divorce became even more complicated; not only do you have to change your home and adjust to your new settings, you also need to finalize the relationship online: removing pictures, comments and so on!

But that’s not all:

Getting remarried after a Facebook divorce is a pickle as well; especially if you care what people would say – or even think – of you right after you change your relationship status to married again!

Please think about it. I think this is serious and I would love to hear your feedback and insights about this topic in the comments section below…

Comments and Reactions

5 responses to “Divorce: What’s Facebook Got to Do with It?”

  1. M.Bamieh says:

    Hmm … well wouldn't the solution be that you hide your relationship status from the public and get it done with? I think divorce is tough enough as it is, but social pressure certainly trumps facebook pressure any day of the week.

  2. Lacie says:

    I believe that Facebook may help accelerate someone pulling the trigger and getting a divorce. However, in most cases, a divorce was already inevitable at some point down the road….

  3. Rahimo says:

    I agree with M. Bamieh. You can just hide your relationship status from your profile and your feed. It`s not dramatic at all. I know several who`ve broken up without anyone hardly noticing. Easy peacy.

  4. Jo says:

    Actually this is very true – I discovered my husband and my best friend were having an affair because of Facebook – I suspected something was going on & because I knew both their passwords I was able to access their Facebook accounts & found dirty messages to each other in there – This is of course evidence which has been handed to my solicitor especially as for 9 months he refused to sign the divorce papers on grounds of adultery

  5. Beiruta says:

    I am so sorry to hear that… I hope you are doing well. Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

©2010 thoughtpick, copyrights reserved.